Are you worried about a loved one’s gambling?
Watching someone you care about struggle with gambling can be stressful, but there are ways to support them while also protecting yourself.
Signs your loved one may have a problem
- They spend more time or money on gambling than they can afford
- They become secretive about their activities or finances
- Their mood changes frequently, especially after wins or losses
- They borrow money or face ongoing financial difficulties
- They begin to neglect responsibilities at work, school, or home
Common warning signs to watch for
- Increasing time spent gambling or thinking about gambling
- Avoiding conversations about money or becoming defensive
- Emotional ups and downs linked to gambling outcomes
- Financial stress, debt, or borrowing from others
- Loss of interest in daily responsibilities or relationships
How to speak to a loved one about their gambling
Choose the right time
Find a calm and private moment to talk, when neither of you is stressed or distracted. A relaxed setting can make it easier to have an open and honest conversation.
Stay calm and supportive
Approach the conversation with care and understanding. Focus on your concern for their well-being rather than blaming or criticizing, so they feel safe to open up.
Encourage support
Let them know that help is available and that they don’t have to face it alone. Offer to support them in finding resources or speaking to a professional.
How to protect yourself
Set clear boundaries
Decide what you are comfortable with, especially when it comes to money, and stick to those limits. It’s important not to enable harmful behaviour.
Avoid taking on their financial burden
While it may feel natural to help, covering debts or lending money can sometimes make the situation worse. Encourage them to seek proper support instead.
Look after your own well-being
Supporting someone else can be emotionally draining. Make sure you take time for yourself, maintain your own routines, and seek support if needed.
Seek advice and support
You don’t have to handle this alone. Speaking with a counsellor or joining a support group can help you better understand the situation and cope more effectively.
Stories of loved ones affected by gambling
Many families and friends have faced the challenges of supporting someone with a gambling problem. Their stories often highlight the emotional impact, from stress and uncertainty to rebuilding trust over time.
Hearing these experiences can remind you that you’re not alone, and that with the right support, both individuals and their loved ones can find a path toward recovery and healthier relationships.